- Money doesn’t buy happiness. YES IT DOES
- Everything happens for a reason. Yeah sure and the reasons are because of someone’s action or inaction. There is no all knowing benevolent deity effecting things in our lives.
“If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all”. Your silence in the face of injustice is what enables abuse.
Use AI.
Peeing on a jellyfish sting. It doesn’t do anything, except maybe humiliate a person who’s already in pain.
“Buy experiences, not things”
The rationale isn’t exactly wrong for the comparison, but it smuggles in an underlying assumption that it’s reasonable and normal to be spending all your available money in an effort to be happy. Money is way more useful for reinforcing your continued survival and freedom than for anything else and the idea that it’s good for regulating your emotions beyond that is a deception geared towards keeping consumer spending up.
Just ignore them.
Try telling that to someone who is being physically afflicted.
It also sends a message that there’s no point in bringing up things that bother you. A kid raised on “just ignore them” may internalize that they shouldn’t talk about their problems, since nobody’s going to help them anyway. Then someday they may end up in a work force where they don’t bring up issues to management that could totally be resolved with a simple conversation. Worse yet, if they have a beef with someone and the other person speaks to management first, they’ll immediately be put on the defense simply because they didn’t say anything sooner.
“Work hard and you will be rewarded.”
With more work.
“Arbeit macht frei”
My greatest regret in the store I work for, was being reliable.
3 and a half years in, I’m virtually worked to death. And my raise? A petty .25 one.
Yeah, so, anyone who says to me “if you work hard” or “hard work pays off” can royally go fuck themselves dry and hard, unironically.
You’ve gotten a single 25 cent raise in 3.5 years? Jesus fucking christ. I don’t care if you did the bare minimum not to get fired, you deserve more than that. You are making less today than your did when you got hired factoring in inflation. And gesticulates wildly at everything.
“Be yourself” in regards to dating.
I don’t know about most people, but I was an absolute asshat in my twenties.
If I had to rephrase that for myself, it would be to read a bunch of books, work out, and learn to be more socially acceptable so people can tolerate my stupid ass and actually want to date me.
(fyi that was like two decades ago and I’m happily married with two kids. )
I would re-tool it as “be a better version of yourself” instead. So, sounds like you practiced that method than the vague one.
I’d rephrase it to “be your best self” … you know that you can take better care of your appearance, ask attentive questions, chew with your mouth closed, etc.
It’s a question of effort.
For me I think growing up constantly told “you’re so smart, you’ll figure it all out” was more detrimental than helpful. It led me to believe I’d cruise through life pretty easily. I’m happy with where life’s taken me and the point I’m at now but I could’ve gotten there a lot faster if I would’ve applied myself more. Just because a kid is into computers doesn’t mean they’ll be some sort of genius.
I can’t stand this one. Like, yes, I can figure out a lot of things for myself. But if I’m asking someone for help, it’s because my own resourcefulness has reached its limit and in this situation, I need assistance from others. That is, if I could figure out a solution on my own, I would’ve done so. The whole point of bringing up the issue was an attempt to get help for it.
“She’s your mother! Show some respect” <- friends and family after every toxic, manipulative, narcissistic thing that woman did. The eternal free pass.
Good things come to those who wait.
You can be anything you want.
The man who stands atop a hill with his mouth open will wait a long time for a roast duck to fly in
“Get a job doing something you live doing.” Only if you want to learn to hate something you loved. Doing anything as work builds resentment, you’re better off finding something you can tolerate. Save the stuff you love for hobbies or as a last resort your own business, not working for anyone else.
Get a job doing something you like doing.
I liked being in a van all day a lot more than I liked being inside all day.
Even when the weather was terrible, it’s better than rebreathing the same stale air for eight hours.
Better advice would be to find a job that is enjoyable.
My work is still work, but as jobs go it’s fucking awesome … it’s not what I love, but there’s lots of variety, I have to use my head and body, and it’s legit so I don’t have to worry about being arrested or catching an STD or whatever.
the secret to “doing what you love” for work is to have a solid passive income stream established beforehand. this takes alot of the stress of failure/eaking out maximum profit out of the equation.
once you make more $ than you really need to spend, you can work as little/many hours at whatever type of job you want.
rich people are rich because somewhere down the line their parents bought/passed down dividend paying stock (or they got lucky themselves/soldout a startup for some etc.). once you bring in 6 figs in passive income you can pretty much do whatever the fuck you want as long as you don’t try to keep appearances with the super-rich.
that is what all those “i weave baskets and my partner rehabilitates wild dolphins for a living, watch us shop for a 2-3 million $ house”-shows quietly never touch on.
Eh yeah, that scenario is doing wonders with the millions who’re forced into paycheck-to-paycheck lifestyles. /s You might want to tone it down a few notches there.
Rich people are rich because they’re cunning and well-connected, other times, it is just the birthing lottery.
“Blood is thicker than water” meaning family is more important than chosen relationships.
And before any smartypants claims it used to mean something else, there is no evidence of that.
its such dumb phrase too. “blood is thicker than water” well no way, it is?! And why is water representing the chosen relationships here and why is the thickness the implied positive thing here? You know what is thicker than blood? Porridge. No idea what that implies though. If you need someone to explain the meaning of saying to get it, then its not very good saying imo.
Anything cited from Reddit shouldn’t be taken with grains of salt, but with bags of salt.
“If you don’t profit from it, someone else will, so you might as well get yours.”
Don’t even get me started on how toxic and self-centered this is…
“Just rub some dirt in it, you’ll be fine”
Ah yes, introduce who knows what kind of bacteria, possible fecal matter and foreign material into an open wound and be surprised when it gets infected.
I’ll admit, I did this as a kid many times but that doesn’t mean it’s a good idea
I’ve never heard that as advice, where is it common?
US, specifically in the country. Fall off your bike and scrape your knee, rub some dirt in it and keep going, for example.
While I grew up hearing this advice, I don’t remember anyone taking it literally. Even as a little one I always understood it to mean the same as “walk it off”, also not entirely literal.
What they really meant was the more literal and toxic “don’t just cry like a baby “
Must be a place with lots of infections happening!
