I don’t know what question should I ask but How to actually live? There are so many distractions on my path, on the left side there is a phone with access to thousands of naked women, in front of me a computer with lots of games and movies, on the right side there is also a phone with a lot of content which is increases dopamine such as TIKTOK, INSTAGRAM, and on the back there is MOM which is telling me what should I do and what I shouldn’t doesn’t support any of my decisions…
Delete the apps from your phone.
No need to delete the accounts if you think those are something you want to keep. You can still use the browser versions of them. Those browser versions suck, that will make you want to use them less (hopefully, don’t know how addicted you are). The more you get frustrated with using the things, the less you want to use them. Its like making cigarettes taste absolutely horrible and disgusting in order to not want to smoke them.
Or leave your phone somewhere that you cant reach. On top of your bookshelf, in your clothes closet, kitchen. Make it so that there is barriers, however small, to using them. You could go to extremes and lock it in a safe that only your mom has access to. Or you could install one of those apps that lock you out for a certain period of time.
Leave your phone home and go take a walk. Walk to the library, read some magazines, newspapers or books there. Get a mp3 player, put some music, podcasts or audiobooks in it and go for a walk.
Barriers are the thing. You don’t have to lock yourself out of the devices, apps and services. Just make using them slightly inconvenient. Then raise the inconvenience levels bit by bit.
You are just stuck in a routine. Break the routine, break the addiction.
Get yourself a degoogled phone, something with lineageOS, graphene or some other operating system. You won’t be able to install any of those apps.
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Just curious, what’s your ADHD situation?
Got it? Don’t? Never thought about it before?
Is there anything you want to do or be, so badly, that would move you to act despite the distractions?
I can’t just STOP doing that because I’m already addicted to it, when I deleting all the distractions I’m returning to them after 1 month.
Cultivate other habits. When you’re bored, do some exercise or whittle some wood or do a puzzle. If your replace your bad habits with something else, you’ll find it easier. I deleted Facebook and other apps that have notification counters, and I use them through PWA. Now I check Facebook once a month or less and they spy on me less. Same with LinkedIn. Lemmy is also PWA but I’m on here much more because I chose to be.
But I’ve mostly replaced my ADHD scanning with work, not anything healthy or fun.
Don’t know if it’ll help, but I turned off wi-fi for a while and that changed my habits a bit. I was able to finish a programming project (sweeper clone). If I ever used the internet, it was on my phone (browser mostly for questions, not logged into anything, overall less comfortable without a keyboard for me) and even then I turned the wifi back off shortly after.
I still played games etc. that I already had downloaded, but it’s a lot more limited with choice and I also deleted quite a bit of stuff that I didn’t care about (weighed against how much data it took up). So even that was not so bad.
I also hooked up the old PS3 and replayed some games, which made more sense with limited options.
Finishing the project sort of ended that though, was hoping to get answers to questions and did not. That and dislike the GH co-pilot situation so I haven’t even shared my sweeper project, so kinda killed my motivation’s momentum.
Going by my post history here, it was ~2.5 months for me.
