Aargh.

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Cake day: March 16th, 2026

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  • Pretty randomly. I’m very picky about what I listen to, I’m very reluctant to listen to stuff recommended by my friends etc. I mostly stumble upon new stuff. Either I hear a cool song on a tv-show, like Golden Brown by The Stranglers in Clarksons Farm, or a collaboration with a artist that I already listen to, like happened when I found out about Têtes Raides through Yann Tiersen.

    But me being weird about how and when I find music is a pretty pointless thing to talk about since I think most people don’t do things the way I do. I’d recommend making a Last.fm account. Not only does it make lists of what you listen to, it has that “similar artists” thing. I use it mostly to have a list of stuff I’ve listened to, because I like lists. My last.fm account is the oldest account I have (now that google doesn’t let me use my gmail anymore lol), I’ve had it since 2005. Its pretty fun to go check what I listened to in February 2007 or something. I can see where my teenage relationship breakups were, based on HIM being the most listened to artist of a month lol








  • Why do you feel its your job to drag them out of their comfort zones? Why do you feel the need to change people and force them to do what they dont want to do?

    It doesn’t go both ways, you can just walk away and stop bothering them. If you keep pestering them, they are just gonna get fed up with you and break contact. If they are people you want to keep as your friends, find some other friends who are on your energy and interest levels and use your extra energy with them and use your chilling and relaxing days with the people who are comfortable sitting at the comfort of their homes.



  • they found interacting with me super frustrating because I was not predictable in the way they desired and my constant introduction of novelty to their own life seemed to upset them constantly.

    The way you wrote this made me remember a person who was in my life for a bit. She had like 1000% more energy than I did, she was a complete extroverted duracell bunny while I’m more slow moving introvert. She kept pushing me to try new things and dragging me to places where I didn’t want to go. She had no sense of boundaries. She’d show up and just start doing stuff and telling me how I was being boring and scared of living life. Just because I wanted to do my thing in my own pace.

    She was exhausting. I’d have to be alone for days after spending half a day with that hurricane of a life force that she was. Eventually I had to cut her out of my life. I stopped opening the door when the door bell rang. I still don’t open the door if the bell rings lmao.

    She didn’t mean anything bad, she was just completely clueless about how to read others. I could have dealt with her if she had like 20% less energy. But she didn’t and I couldn’t. I hope shes doing well.

    Anyway, people just are different. Please don’t try to force your way of doing things on others. Its not because they are scared or have trouble dealing with life, its because they are doing things differently.





  • I highly recommend reading up on what Tove Jansson got up to during her life. Shes my favorite woman of all time.

    She lived on a rock in the middle of the sea with her ladyfriend. Built a sauna under her cabin because the government didn’t give her a permission to build one, so had to do it in secret. She also published cartoons that mocked hitler in the 1930s and 1940s.