For example, I love to sing. However, only one other person in my life has ever heard me sing and I haven’t seen that person in years. I’m not sure I’m good at singing but I think I can hit the notes well enough.

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    I have a wicked sense of humor and a penchant for puns and word play. I also have a very large vocabulary from being a voracious reader from an early age which feeds my puns.

    I can trace the point in time when my wife and I fell in love with each other was when we spent an entire car trip doing puns and word play. Not just any puns but as the trip went on they got more and more esoteric. We discovered that we could keep up with each other and we’ve been together ever since.

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    I haven’t told anyone that my Mum died last weekend, because it’s not a big deal to me.

    I don’t want to put up with people not understanding and being weird about it.

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      My mother died when I was 19. I’d been estranged from her for over a decade at the point. I wasn’t really upset, but I definitely played it up so I could take a week off of work.

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        Ooh, good point - I can get a couple of compassionate leave days when the family gets together for a BBQ (probably in August), instead of using PTO :-)

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      I’ve not had contact with my mother for decades and I can’t tell you how much my life improved when I cut her out. If she died tomorrow I wouldn’t shed a tear. A friend of mine loved her mum but her death was a long time coming, so she shrugged it off. So yep, can totally understand someone having an unconventional response

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        I feel that … I was out of contact for 12 years, then we were in a sort of armed neutrality for ages so that I could spend time with my Dad.

        We ended up on reasonably good terms after she gave a genuine if somewhat vague apology, but the last time I saw her was two years ago, and I wasn’t in a rush to see her again.

        I mostly feel a mild form of relief

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    I don’t actually know what I’m doing. I just keep getting away with it, and I know that one day I’ll be found out.

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    Very few people irl know my actual political beliefs because I water them down constantly in order to make them sound more socially acceptable

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    I drive a truck for work, and I’m a major gearhead.

    Nobody who knows me in-person knows that I’ve written erotica for money. Hardly anyone knows I like to write, like, period.

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    My dad has a cancer that has no cure. He will eventually die because it, but the medication has given he a few good years so far and hopefully he has few more in him.

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        It was pretty rough at start. Especially when we were not sure whats happening and after we did, we did not know how the medication was going to effect as it varies a lot person to person, but luckily it has been effective for my dad.

        It has also been tough because the cancer effects the immune system, so if i have made plans to travel to home and i get runny nose i need to cancel the trip. Especially because when the medicine stops being effective the cancer will develope quickly, so every time i miss a birthday or christmas, there is possibility that it could be the last one we get.

        Since mom has retired now too, they have beem doing lots of travelling and they have come to terms with the disease they are pretty much living to the fullest while his is still fit to travel.

        Big suprice was that the disease actually revealed useful side of facebook. There is support group of people having the same disease. It helped dad a lot to understand he should not just stop living his life because of the sickness. The group is little eerie tough as for the obvious reason people in there may suddenly just disapear.

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          Yes there’s a lot of variables and a lot that’s hard to predict. Even a runny nose could change things, which is a lot of stress. You don’t even know how much time you have. The Facebook group sounds good but I get that it’s eerie tough. I hope your family gets as much happiness as you possibly can over this time

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    i have a phd in philosophy.

    i can’t ever talk about it because people never respond positively. they almost always attack me for it because it is scary or something.

    if i say it’s english they are are a lot less hostile, so that’s what I do if it comes up.

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    No one knows the cute little lady at work listens to extreme metal on her headphones lol. I pause my black metal and say the sweetest things to my patients.

    I also know a lot of anime. Not the new stuff, but the tried and true stuff. I don’t watch it anymore, but yeah. No one would know because I don’t talk about it.

    Oh and I know old school UFC too, because I’ve got Fight Pass and have been watching it (and Pride) chronologically lol.

    My ethnicity mix also seems to trip people up. I get some interesting guesses!

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    Most people don’t know that I left the Marine Corps an expert rifleman and sharpshooter with a pistol. I really miss hitting the range. It’s kind of therapeutic for me.

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      Check out the JaredAF channel on YouTube, he’s an American bullseye competitor who makes really good content, it isn’t the usual “guntube” shite.

      I do Olympic 25m pistol and really enjoy it even though I’m rubbish, lol (I average maybe 80/100 over all) … love playing with different guns, too.

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    Probably more like a super well-guarded secret than just an aspect at this point. There was one anime series that was both my favorite and quite foundational to my personality for a long time. I legitimately have never told anyone about it; not even my parents

    And no I have no intention on disclosing it here. Probably not too hard to infer for hardcore anime fans who would know me in person, but still

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      Democratic-lottocracy where the canditades are drawn from the elligble population, but where people vote who they want to represent them in senate would be fire.

      Bonus points if the terms end at different times. Like if there would be 200 seats and 4 years terms, there would be elections for 50 seat every year.

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        That would be roughly 1 election per week which feels very very draining. If you combine multiple election in a single day it would be too much for people to carefully consider every option

        Maybe the solution could be that some of them are chosen elected like you said, while other seats are given randomly

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          Im thinking more like 200 seats divided by province or state or what ever is applicable and voting only representatives from your own area so it would be pretty close to parlamentic elections we have here now.

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            What about:

            • citizens are chosen randomly to get regional seats
            • elections are held regionally so that x of these citizens get national-wide seats
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      I mean it does have legitimate narrow use cases imo ¯⁠\⁠_⁠(⁠ツ⁠)⁠_⁠/⁠¯

      Everywhere? Nawww not rlly