For example, I love to sing. However, only one other person in my life has ever heard me sing and I haven’t seen that person in years. I’m not sure I’m good at singing but I think I can hit the notes well enough.

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    I haven’t told anyone that my Mum died last weekend, because it’s not a big deal to me.

    I don’t want to put up with people not understanding and being weird about it.

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      My mother died when I was 19. I’d been estranged from her for over a decade at the point. I wasn’t really upset, but I definitely played it up so I could take a week off of work.

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        Ooh, good point - I can get a couple of compassionate leave days when the family gets together for a BBQ (probably in August), instead of using PTO :-)

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      I’ve not had contact with my mother for decades and I can’t tell you how much my life improved when I cut her out. If she died tomorrow I wouldn’t shed a tear. A friend of mine loved her mum but her death was a long time coming, so she shrugged it off. So yep, can totally understand someone having an unconventional response

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        I feel that … I was out of contact for 12 years, then we were in a sort of armed neutrality for ages so that I could spend time with my Dad.

        We ended up on reasonably good terms after she gave a genuine if somewhat vague apology, but the last time I saw her was two years ago, and I wasn’t in a rush to see her again.

        I mostly feel a mild form of relief