• Michael@slrpnk.net
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      1 day ago

      This, but I don’t feel it’s a form of revenge. There’s nothing wrong with choosing to not feed into drama and choosing to not engage with people who wish you ill.

      Genuinely wishing those who wish you ill the best and completely moving on is likely more difficult - it’s what I’ve done with several individuals in my life and it’s served me very well.

      It was hard and unnatural until I realized that I don’t want to spend my life hating others and being involved in any form of drama. The hate and resentment I felt towards those that participated in my abuse was killing me, but releasing it all and staying in a positive headspace helps me to feel better.

      Knowing I won’t get into those situations anymore and appreciating the lessons I learned made me stronger.

      • MagicShel@lemmy.zip
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        The last thing I want to do is let the people who’ve mistreated me to live in my head rent free. I let that shit go and in some cases appreciate being taught valuable lessons about human nature. And TBH, I’ve been on the other side and fucked up and wronged people and learned from that, too.