• swelter_spark@reddthat.com
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    1 day ago

    To me it means be genuine vs being fake. Acting like someone you aren’t to get a partner only results in having a partner that you don’t have a real connection with, and who values you for qualities you don’t actually have.

    • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      1 day ago

      Well yes … but I’ve met many men who, when being themselves, were simply putting in zero effort. And they were oblivious to it.

      Sometimes it takes someone to come in from outside and give them a shove jn the right direction.