As someone not affiliated with Deltachat, but who runs a chatmail server, it is dirt cheap, can run on almost anything, and simple to set up.

Although, I do have 20 years of operations experience, so that last bit may just may be me.

Yes

EDIT: ah, sorry, missed the straight qualifier.

Yes.

If they were a good person with interests similar t to mine and compatible … I don’t know, trauma responses and I was attracted to them.

I tend to be attracted to femininity, but with exceptions. I also am bi, too, though, and old enough that that identity matters to me.