What do you do in bed that drives your partners crazy?

    • happydoors@lemmy.world
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      No, there is a simple answer for sex and relationships out there. There’s gotta be. I JUST NEED TO FIND IT. LOUD NOISES.

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      I’m fine with it. Asking questions is a good way to get ideas you may have never thought of yourself.

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    Do the dishes and other chores. If she’s not relaxed and thinking of all the other shit in her life that she has to do shortly after she won’t enjoy it

    Never had sex in my life tho so idk

  • Thurstylark@lemmy.today
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    I am pan, and have been with all sorts of people, and I have this one ancient, infallible technique that always guarantees a good time:

    Listening

    I’m dead serious. It works wonders across the entire board, regardless of gender, sexuality, body type, ability, or equipment configuration. Whoever your partner is, communication is your most valuable tool. Whether verbal or non-verbal, listening to what your partner has to say about what they want and how they feel will always tell you what to do.

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      Yup, former part-time sex worker and all-round slut here - when I saw the title, this was the first thing I thought of.

      Second was, learn to enjoy giving pleasure. Nothing gets me off more than getting them past what they thought their limits were >:-)

    • Ziglin (it/they)@lemmy.world
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      As someone with less experience I experience that is exactly what I would have expected to be most important but I would have also thought that it is so trivial that it probably doesn’t need to be said.

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        Maybe not. The basic idea, not obvious to all, is that this is something you do WITH a partner, not a performance you put on for them.

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        I would have also thought that it is so trivial that it probably doesn’t need to be said.

        In my experience, the majority of people I know who were in relationships don’t get it. So many times, their problems could be resolved by simple communication. Sadly, no matter how hard I try to ram it in their heads, they still don’t get it.

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    Well communication and asking what they prefer listening to their responses etc BUT getting good with my mouth has gotten me amazing reactions and awe whether it is a dick or a tit I am sucking on.

  • guy@piefed.social
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    I touch the parts they enjoy and listen to their response for how the touching should be. 9/10 success rate