This question was inspired by a meme I just saw, and my longtime crush on Brad Pitt, who’s 45 years older than me.
Youngest: my age. Oldest: if it’s someone in as good shape as Brad Pitt, the sky’s the limit.
No-one.
Absolutely no-one.
If I get widowed tomorrow, imma gonna stay single for the rest of my days.
Not only am I edging into that age where I am becoming increasingly cranky and unwilling to change for someone else (I have changed enough for my wife of 30 years), but I have also been keeping a light finger on what’s happening out there between the sexes, and holy shite that’s become one hell of a mess that I want absolutely nothing to do with.
I mean, the door isn’t going to be barred and locked. But it is going to be firmly closed and with a cinder block in the way. If someone wants through, they are going to have to demonstrate real effort in their pursuit of me.
But then again, I would be shocked AF if any woman thought pursuit of any kind wasn’t beneath them. So I guess my peace and quiet would be quite safe. Thank the lord.
Joke answer: whomever my wife would let us.
Actual answer: I don’t know. I’m in my mid 40s. If I had to start over for some reason and was looking for a serious relationship, at least 30s as the minimum. Max would be low 50s, probably, though I’ve not thought a ton about it.
Actualer answer: if I ever lost my wife, I doubt I could/would pursue a serious relationship again or at least for a long enough time to make my answer above probably innacurate.
I think I’d be done for good.
This depends on what you mean by date
If you mean pursue a long term relationship, the answer probably is around 30 and 45
If you mean a short term fling or one time thing, the answer is 25 to probably 60. This depends a lot on their physical condition.
Edit: also, F38
Damn! We’d fit perfectly (ok, on the edges), if only I was in good physical condition /s
But seriously I totally agree, where I previously strongly preferred someone near to my age, that no longer seems as relevant.
- a short term thing would be purely physical. I wouldn’t be too picky
- a relationship would have to be about as active as me, similar interests, etc. one of the challenges is compatible sex drive and that gets harder with age
M<older>- probably consider 40-60 but would be suspicious of the ulterior motives of the younger ones
Half my age +7 and double my age -7
This is NOT the correct formula.
*edited
It is *alf your age +7 and Your age -7 doubled.
Shouldn’t the latter actually be “My age - 7, then doubled”? That’s the order of operations to find a number that matches the “half plus 7” rule.
For example, say you’re 66 and looking for the lowest age according to the first formula. 66/2 = 33. Then 33 + 7 = 40.
Which should mean that for a 40 year old, the upper age would be 66. If we do 40 - 7 = 33, then 33 x 2 = 66. These numbers match.
But if we followed OP’s formula, we’d end up with 73 instead. (40 x 2 = 80, and 80 - 7 = 73.) That’s a 9 year difference. Meanwhile, if we did “half plus 7” for a 73 year old, we’d get 43.5. The numbers don’t line up.
You are correct, I’m so used to seeing it I didn’t sanity check the whole thing. Your maximum = their minimum using the same rule.
If you’re 20 thats great but I’m not dating a geriatric.
So 28-77 for me… I’d prefer +/-7
Damn, works surprisingly well!
I don’t date anymore, but I don’t subscribe to the idea that a lot of people think there is a formula to figure it out. I don’t hold a position of power or authority, so if there was a connection between me and another adult, the age doesn’t matter.
I’m curious - why would you never go younger than yourself, but don’t have an issue with the older person going decades younger for you?
EDIT - just found out your 17 which changes things. I’ll get my coat.
where does this me being 17 thing come from?
i’ve been open about my age since i first got on here. even had an asklemmy post about birthday celebrations months ago
62-45= 17?
Holy shit. You’re 17. The hilarity of all the guys thristing after your content is disturbing. And all your bragging about everything you do seems incredibly creepy now.
i’m not 17
i’m a feb baby, hence the violet in my username
Brad Pitt, who’s 45 years older than me
Brad Pitt is 62.
62-45=17.
🤨
i did the math based on years
2008-1963=45
Well, that seems like quibbling. Outside of legality, we’re talking 2 months.
But this reminds me of a joke.
A cop is doing his patrol on the night shift and notices a car parked at the local makeout spot a little before midnight. The interior lights are on and things seem pretty quiet. He pulls up and taps on the window. The driver rolls it down and asks how he can help. The officer sees a young man and woman sitting in the car, both reading a book. He asks if everything is okay and asks for ID. They both provide it. He notices the girl’s 18th birthday is tomorrow and the guy’s already an adult. He asks them what their plans are and the boy glances at his watch and says, “Well, for the next twelve minutes or so, we’re going to keep reading these books.”
I only date people who are physiologically in their twenties but chronologically in their one hundred and twenties.
/I have a thing for time travelers.
Vampires?
Me too…where did you find these, “time travelers”?
Yesterday.
The youngest I’d go is 23 for a short term fling. If I was to end up in a relationship, I’d like someone in their mid to late thirties.
Yeah, a fling is different. Maybe I’d go 22 at the youngest if they don’t look too young and give an instant ick.
Not many choices is why lol.
Im a dude which means if someones an adult im not likely to shy away. Realistically there is a point where someone younger than me is not going to be attracted to me or the commanality factor is not there or our lives simply would not mesh. Granted im married so this is all theoretical alternate univers where I was not. Similarly when it comes to older its likely to be more about looks. We all know some folks that keep themselves fit and if someone is hot they are hot. Now the limiting factor there is im not exactly fit and you have to be realistic in expectations. Anyway I don’t think its about age when it comes to attraction. Its physicality and personality meshing.
Im a dude which means if someones an adult im not likely to shy away.
That’s not what the word “dude” means. Just because you’d fuck anyone old enough to give consent doesn’t mean all men would.
this is a good example of taking one part of a reply and not looking at the full nuance. Im expressing myself and who I am and its great you differ. I get that people differ. Its like a sterotype. Are they untrue. Not completely in my experience but everyone does not meet the stereotype. In this keep I do. To some degree. Again if you take into account everything I said it would be obvious im not talking about just fucking.
Give me a rich, generous, elderly, asexual sugar-mama or give me death.
I’m 34. Youngest would probably be 23, oldest would be late 40s. I’m getting to that age where I wouldn’t feel comfortable dating a college student. Plus I kinda do prefer older women.
According to the rule a 23yo would be creepy, a 24yo just Ok. And up to 54 is ok. (Age/2)+7 for youngest and (age-7)*2 for oldest.
I’m 33.
Probably mid/late 20s, to somewhere in the 40s. 50 still feels a bit too old.
35-45 seems like a good range at the moment
38yo Male, cis and dull.
30-45?
Seems like an alright range. Ten over, ten under maybe so too.
