One of my children is questioning their gender, and they seem at ease with non-binary. I found this out yesterday, so I’m approaching this gently, though I feel ill-prepared. I want to be who they need.
I’m curious about the experiences of other parents, or stories about your parents learning to adjust if you came out to them.
Follow-up: Thank you all so much for your stories and your feedback!
I have. Adjust seems like the wrong word.
Might as well ask, when your kid got married, how did you adjust.
If anyone is adjusting, it’s them.
It’s a stage of life. Just because some paths are not considered the default, that doesn’t make the parent involved in some unique way.
I mean, that is an adjustment because something changed.
but it doesn’t really change the parents life in any way, other then maybe an extra plate at the table and another face to talk too. the parents would still be living the same life. the change/adjustments are on the one changing, not the outsiders.
so long as you accept them for who they are, nothing needs to be done differently.