This is useless advice people love to parrot. The reality is people go to hobbies to do hobbies, not to find partners. You’ll be the creep in the corner and o ly be disappointed aging.
It is true that it is easier to meet partners at these activities than, like, sitting on your couch scrolling through TikTok on your phone.
But that’s because the people who are into meeting up to do things want to do the things themselves. It’s very easy to see through the people who are interested in the thing only as a stepping stone towards something else, versus the people who are actually there to enjoy the thing.
If you can’t show up to a meetup and have a great time despite there not being any available/single people you find attractive, you’re gonna be the kind of dud that isn’t attractive even when a potential partner shows up.
People should pursue hobbies and interests. It is fulfilling in itself, and makes you more attractive to others and puts you in contact with more people to have more opportunities to meet partners. But you gotta be the type of person to want to do it anyway, even if there is zero prospect of meeting a partner.
It also ignores the gender imbalance of a lot of hobbies. You know how many women I’ve met at the RC field? Two. The wives of two pilots who just come to hang out and enjoy the weather lol
I mean the reality is that the best way to find a relationship is to aim for the ground and miss
As in aim for just making friends, and improving your own mental health, and you’re own social life, and accidentally getting a relationship by just finding people who you like hanging out with that like you as well.
Meetup.com and similar, go to as many hobbies and clubs and events as possible, but only pick things you genuinely care about
Passion about interests is incredibly sexy, almost as sexy as having fun doing things you like without explicitly looking for a relationship.
Date me now, is the most unsexy though, cause it’s ignoring the person, instead treating them as an abstract goal to reach
This is useless advice people love to parrot. The reality is people go to hobbies to do hobbies, not to find partners. You’ll be the creep in the corner and o ly be disappointed aging.
It is true that it is easier to meet partners at these activities than, like, sitting on your couch scrolling through TikTok on your phone.
But that’s because the people who are into meeting up to do things want to do the things themselves. It’s very easy to see through the people who are interested in the thing only as a stepping stone towards something else, versus the people who are actually there to enjoy the thing.
If you can’t show up to a meetup and have a great time despite there not being any available/single people you find attractive, you’re gonna be the kind of dud that isn’t attractive even when a potential partner shows up.
People should pursue hobbies and interests. It is fulfilling in itself, and makes you more attractive to others and puts you in contact with more people to have more opportunities to meet partners. But you gotta be the type of person to want to do it anyway, even if there is zero prospect of meeting a partner.
It also ignores the gender imbalance of a lot of hobbies. You know how many women I’ve met at the RC field? Two. The wives of two pilots who just come to hang out and enjoy the weather lol
I mean the reality is that the best way to find a relationship is to aim for the ground and miss
As in aim for just making friends, and improving your own mental health, and you’re own social life, and accidentally getting a relationship by just finding people who you like hanging out with that like you as well.
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