There is a difference between “ready for therapy” and “ready for change”. Some people will sit in therapy for years but never see much progress because they are so stuck in doing or thinking something that holds them back.
Your therapist will tell you things that don’t make sense to you. Listen to them anyway. If they tell you something that seems impossible, don’t ignore it, ask how you can do that. If they tell you something that seems useless, try it anyway, then report back if it doesn’t work and be open for an explanation for why it didn’t work.
Be brutally honest. Your therapist won’t be able to help you unless you tell them exactly how bad your situation is. If you spend 90% of your day in bed and tell your therapist you’re doing okay, they won’t be able to correctly identify what kind of help you need.
It is completely normal to miss some of your goals. Therapy takes time and nobody will judge you if you take longer than others. Figuring out how much you should push yourself and when you need a break is hard. Either way, don’t be angry at yourself when something doesn’t work out. As long as you tried, you’re fine.
Most of your problems are in your head. That doesn’t mean they aren’t real. It doesn’t mean they don’t hurt. It doesn’t mean they aren’t difficult to overcome. It just means that the only person who can solve them is you. A therapist can explain how to solve them but they can’t change your thoughts or your habits.
Especially if you consider self-harm, it is very important to be honest with your therapist. Even if it leads to an extended stay in a psych ward, that’s better than throwing your life away.
When my depression took over so hard that i was sitting in my room with a knife in my hand and pondering cutting open my wrists, instead i went directly to the psych ward and institutionalized myself for 3 months, until my medication and therapy made me stable enough to leave without danger. Without this step, i would probably not be here anymore and would have caused untold pain to my surroundings. It led to many happy memories in my life which i wouldn’t have experienced.
That’s why I said go voluntarily if you need to. It sucks, but it’s better than the alternative. I know psych wards have a bad rep, but i can assure you that it helped me when i was at my lowest point in my life.
Not me but someone close to me:
Am I supposed to tell them I really really wanna kms right now?
Nah, they’d lock me up lmfao
Can’t even tell my mom cuz she’d get mad at me…
Any LLM would just spam the same “seek professional help” shit…
Like…
Venting on a random forum is the best catharisis I have…
lmfao
Especially if you consider self-harm, it is very important to be honest with your therapist. Even if it leads to an extended stay in a psych ward, that’s better than throwing your life away.
When my depression took over so hard that i was sitting in my room with a knife in my hand and pondering cutting open my wrists, instead i went directly to the psych ward and institutionalized myself for 3 months, until my medication and therapy made me stable enough to leave without danger. Without this step, i would probably not be here anymore and would have caused untold pain to my surroundings. It led to many happy memories in my life which i wouldn’t have experienced.
Having a record for involuntary commitment is gonna put me on top of ICE’s abduction list…
So yeah… officially, I’m not suicidal, I’m perfectly happy and healthy
(pls EU Immigration officials, lemme in 🥺👉👈)
That’s why I said go voluntarily if you need to. It sucks, but it’s better than the alternative. I know psych wards have a bad rep, but i can assure you that it helped me when i was at my lowest point in my life.