In popular culture as well as in personal stories told by many people there’s often mentions of spontaneously having sex in random places and sometimes with random people: in cars, in clubs, in bathrooms etc. But how do people do that without taking shower beforehand? Penetration is imaginable - if there’s no strong bad smell, it might be tollerable, but what about oral sex? Sounds vomit inducing.
its dat good stank
Aight, as someone that used to wash dirty bodies for a living, and insists on a level of cleanliness because of that, you’re way overestimating the funk most people have in the short term.
The typical person that’s bathing regularly (not even daily) and is changing clothing daily just isn’t going to smell that bad.
Hell, if a person is actively sweating, they’ll smell better because sweat will flush away the stuff that makes funky smell or taste, so all you get is saltiness.
For real, even in nursing homes with urinary incontinent patients, they didn’t stink just by virtue of being in a wet diaper for a while. A washcloth (or the equivalent) and a light scrub would remove any aroma. For an ambulatory adult using basic methods to clear residual urine, you might get the lightest hint at the end of a long day.
Mostly, genitals just smell genital-y. A little light musk, some hints of sebum scent, and maybe the generic scent of skin. It’s far from unpleasant, even when strong enough to detect while helping someone change clothes.
Now, I never went down on, or fucked a patient. Wouldn’t have been interested in crossing that line even if they were otherwise compatible.
But I have gotten freaky with people after their work, after workouts, etc. The truth is that if they stink it points to something being out of whack. It’s not the default at all. A person’s diet and intake of things has way more influence on their taste and similar to their scent than just being out and about randomly.
For real, while I do prefer such intimacy fresh out of a shower because of my history dealing with people that did have something out of whack, it’s not some kind of horrible experience otherwise. Like, it’s less unpleasant than kissing after eating roasted garlic (which isn’t really unpleasant tbh, just intense).
And it’s not like a full bath is going to be significantly better at knocking down UTI risks than a wipe it washcloth and a light attention.
Seriously, where did you get the idea that crotches stink that bad just walking around?
I bet you have some interesting stories.
I used to be banned from dinner tables because of that lol.
My initial thought was what you were like camping, sitting around a campfire, just chatting.
Lol
If your or your partner’s genitals are vomit-inducing half a day after your last shower and putting on fresh underwear in the morning, you might have a medical issue that needs checking out.
This is such a bizarre post… OP you sound terrified of other people and intimacy, therapy would probably be a huge help
Where’d you get that reading from?
Lol. How did our ancestors manage to have sex before showers.
Develop a bit more hygiene and libido.
I ate out a woman who’d been dancing all night in pleather pants.
Sometimes you just do it.
Reminds me of that old college humor skit with Batman.
If you’re into that sort of thing, then the ultimate is peeling a lady out of a latex bodysuit … unless she used too much talc getting into it, lol
I heard a guy call it ‘Disco Moot’, and he was in favour of it.
Lol how to show your inexperience.
When you are in love/lust with the right person trust me anything goes and there’s no issue.
This might be a reflection of your own hygiene. People are always surprised that I only shower once or twice a week and don’t wear deodorant because I look and smell so clean. Ive had orgiastic sex camped out in the woods where no one had access to bathrooms or showers and honestly it was no smellier or grosser than sexing people in a place with showers.
Good diet and doing laundry properly goes a long way but honestly some people are just nasty as fuck with their genitals and no amount of access to running water will change this. There’s unwashed pussies and dicks you will put in your mouth that taste wonderful and there are people who’s junk will smell like yeast and rotten meat even though they just took a shower
Sex is a little nasty anyways. If you’re not comfortable with other people’s taint you’re just not gonna be able to have as much sex. Not all taint is equal but it’s all taint
People are always surprised that I only shower once or twice a week and don’t wear deodorant because I look and smell so clean.
Um. I don’t think they’re surprised because you look and smell so clean. If you only shower once or twice a week and don’t wear deodorant, you stink and you’re nose blind.
Absolutely this, there’s no way to be with more than one person and not have things end up sweaty and smelly even if you just showered … and I am so into that.
Horny brain can override a lot of better judgement.
That’s why post-nut clarity is a thing.
We exist because of a unbroken chain of horny humans existed in all types of conditions, only recently have showers been readily available. The human spirit will make due!
Some people actually like the smells. I even think most people don’t prefer clinically clean bodies.
Where’s violet when you need her. I remember her posting about telling her boyfriend to not shower.
As another incredibly horny Violet out in the world, it’s always odd to read comments like this. Straight up had the thought “ but I never posted that meme on Lemmy” 💀
Is that weird?
I tell my wife not to when I’m in the mood, and it’s much better that way IMO, she smells and tastes divine
Busy being an underage thirst trap talking about fucking a guy as old as her dad.
She’s back again btw.
And what about the taste?
If a penis is too dirty to go in my mouth, it’s too dirty to go in my pussy. I strongly believe everyone should live by that rule!
To echo others here - if everyone involved showered that morning and otherwise wasn’t sweating a lot during the day, it’s fine.
I have ARFID and taste is a huge factor so I can’t live by that rule lol. But, normal people without eating issues, absolutely this rule.
But even after peeing once there’s some urine left. Is it okay for you?
You know urine doesn’t have harmful pathogens in it unless your partner has a UTI right? Germs aren’t inherently harmful and if they’re not harmful why worry about it?
Yeah as long as they’re wiping after pissing and keeping it relatively clean, I’m ok with a little bit of body funk.
It’s nice people can be so accepting. Thanks for sharing your experience!
My ex-gf (RIP) (she’s not dead she just doesn’t like me now) did not rly wash her hair. Nevermind about that. Historically sex has often been terrifying. We have got it so good you have no idea
CW: S.A., the most horrifying shit i have ever heard, do not read this
Before the October Revolution marital rape and giving birth too frequently with a poor diet followed by manual labor (serfdom was incredibly crushing after serfdom was supposedly abolished too, nobody really got lashes for treating their wife this way) was so common in Russia that women would regularly suffer uterine prolapse. I even heard that midwives would use peeled potatoes to try to physically hold the vaginal canal in for healing after prolapse. We truly have a lot to atone for, collectively. How long do you think until we balance out the suffering that’s been caused? How do we know this isn’t hell? Maybe it doesn’t have to be for too much longer.
If you can’t say no on those conditions, do you think telling your husband that he stinks like a fucking dog would stop him? Stalin, where are you? It’s so dark in here. We need your help still
Marital rape after giving birth still happens at such a high frequency that labor and delivery nurses have systems for when a male partner forces himself on his birthing partner while they’re still in hospital.
STILL IN HOSPITAL
my fucking eyes
What the fuck. I’ve never heard this, and I wished it stayed that way
I wish i could say the same, but I’m a woman who has given birth before.
jokes on you, i’m into that shit.
manstink drives me absolutely crazy.🥴
Depends on the man. A lot.
I had one once with that skin condition that means they always smell rotten, and it was not fun.
agreed
I wish my partner were like that. 😁
