The people around me had a very different reaction.
So I’ve not been officially diagnosed, but when I was 48 I went to a psychiatrist for my depression and after a few months he told me he thought I had autism. Just out of the blue.
I was a bit shocked to hear that and I thought he must be wrong. So I told my (neurotypical) friends. And they’re all like “yeah, we’ve known that for years”

Your title “I miss things in writing” genuinely confused me because at first I thought you meant “remember when things were written down?”, and it took me a while before I understood you means “if it’s written down I might look over it”

Do you squeeze them until they squeak?

I thought that every pack of needles came with a needle threader, which looks like a diamond shaped metal wire and a little part that you hold. That already is a big help.