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  • Do you have links to back this up? The only thing I’ve seen that’s been proven to be bad is how homeschooling is usually done, especially in America.

    This is a subtle but important distinction. Homeschooling is not the problem. The lack of oversight and regulation is the problem. The lack of proper structure is the problem.

    Don’t get me wrong, I’m not defending it and do think It’s the wrong choice 99 times out of 100. But saying homeschooling in and of itself is the problem isn’t right.


  • Former homeschooled kid here. Everything I’m about to say is personal experience but I’ve known many other homeschooled people throughout my life.

    With homeschooling you get out what you put in. If the parents take the time to really dial in to the child’s learning needs and set up adequate socialization through after school activities or meetups with other homeschoolers I truly believe it is one of if not the best option for raising a child.

    That being said, most of the people choosing to homeschool are not doing it to give their kids the best. Many are narcissistic conservatives who deny modern science and homeschool not to teach the child but to indoctrinate. They don’t consider mental health important. They don’t consider friends important. They consider the kid learning the Bible and toughening up important. The parents are often social outcasts themselves because of their more strict beliefs.

    Homeschooling is not a problem and doesn’t result in anything directly, it’s the people choosing to homeschool not being equipped to do it properly. In my experience the kind of parent who would choose homeschooling is likely to produce a social awkward kid even if they don’t homeschool.

    TL:DR - Homeschooling good. Most everyone who chooses homeschooling bad. Hug your kids.


  • It’s a real three-way tie for me.

    Growing up my parents sucked. Like hard core. Nothing I did was ever good enough not even performing tour on violin, robotics competitions, or being part of honors society. I lived my childhood doing everything they expected and nothing I wanted. On top of dad being physically abusive and my mom making us children compete for the privilege of her saying we were the favorite child for the week, you can imagine I was pretty screwed in the head.

    So at age 20 I’d had enough.

    cw

    I burned out and attempted suicide.

    My college roommates thankfully stepped up big time and got me the help I needed. Sitting in the psych ward after,being held by someone who genuinely cared about me as I heard someone say they’re proud of me for the first time in my life. I’m many, years older and still almost turn into a blob of tears thinking back on it.

    This led to the other big moving experience. As part of my recovery and road to figuring out who I was and who I wanted to be I decided to listen to a friend, go out on a limb, and go to a Mumford and Sons concert for myself instead of letting them pass by while I kept doing only what others wanted of me. I don’t remember much of the concert, but I remember standing there, realizing I was just a body in the crowd and seeing all the smiling faces around me, their voices washing over me, the music carrying me along. I just remember realizing that I don’t matter at all in the grand scheme of things and I’m free to do what I want.

    So yeah, those or the time my doc accidentally mixed up my meds and gave me effectively an acid trip are my most moving experiences.