「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed)

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Permanently migrating to Piefed because sh.itjust.works has too much federation issues… (apparantly: sh.itjust.works = sh.it doesn’t really.work 😕)

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  • 16 Posts
  • 81 Comments
Joined 11 months ago
Cake day: June 23rd, 2025
  • 「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed)@sh.itjust.workstoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•Who recognizes who around here?
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    5 days ago

    xD

    Since I got summoned by a @ , gonna infodump cuz why not lol:

    Funny enough now that my mom went to China for a 1-month visit, and now it’s like 1 week in and I feel so sad about her absense from home…

    The house feels so much more depressing… :/

    I mean I guess this is a sort of “trial run” of what her eventual death would feel like…

    Like… now I can call her… cuz now its just separated by an ocean, in this era, we have instantaneous communications…

    someday it’ll be separated by a barrier between the mortal realm and… whatever world beyond… the afterlife… spirit realm… or whatever…

    I guess this is what my mom meant when she said she wanted to get married give birth to children… this same emptiness that I’m feeling…

    I might never find love in life :(

    Funny enough my older brother is also in China right now because mom pressured him to do marriage 🤣

    (My parents are arranged marriage btw)

  • 「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed)@sh.itjust.workstoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•Do you feel like a product of your environment?
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    8 days ago

    Yes absolutely.

    If I had never immigrated to the US and remained in China, I’d probably be much less accepting of multiculturalism and less comfortable being around people of different races, and also probably less okay with LGBTQ

    Like… I doubt I’d be openly hateful… but in that environment, I’d never have the opportunity to be exposed to people to of different skin colors, and the culture would’ve reinforced the idea that: " LGBTQ = ‘weird’ "

    I’m kinda obsessed with this concept of these two timelines.

    There’s this timeline of “American Me” vs that other timeline of “Chinese Me”… of what could’ve been

    Like… imagine us two meeting… lmao

    Or perhaps there’s another version of me that arrived in the US even mych earlier… like at 1 year old or something (contrast with current timeline at 8 years old)…

    That version of me would probably be even more “American” and I’d perhaps lose a lot of my “Chinese” part of my identity…

    The trajectory of life… from just the difference of one visa stamp…

    I mean this obsession of alt-timelines is causing me so much existential crisis lol…

  • 「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed)@sh.itjust.workstoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•Myanmar is now one of world's top producer of opium post-Afghanistan decline. Despite myanmar having direct borders with China and India , I can't find any drug crises there unlike fentanyl in US?
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    11 days ago

    Myanmar is now one of world’s top producer of opium post-Afghanistan decline. Despite myanmar having direct borders with China and India , I can’t find any drug crises there unlike fentanyl in US?

    So to rephrase: “Why aren’t there a bunch of drugs getting into China/India and causing a drug addiction problem?”

    Idk about India but:

    Lmfao, you’d get disowned and kicked out if you got a drug addiction in a Chinese family… and then nobody would wanna associate with you…

    Plus… a lot of surveillance cameras

    Instead, people (usually males) go drinking alcohol and gambling (illegal in mainland, so they go to Macau (and maybe HK? idk if they have casinos)), also apparantly smoking (tobacco that is, since weed is illegal btw) is widespread… I’m so lucky that my dad doesn’t drink or gamble, oh btw I heard from a Fujianese classmate (in the US) that (if I remember correctly) apparantly his dad got into a fight in a bar and so that got him deported…

    Also, if someone dies of drug overdose, that’s very shameful for the family so sometimes they get the person doing the autopsy (the coroner? mortician? or whatever you all it) or some government official to label it as “accident” or maybe “accidental poisoning” (via connections (GuanXi) and/or via bribery)

    Suicide is also shameful so sometime they also get labeled as “accident” to avoid shame to the family.

    (I’m Chinese Diaspora)

  • 「黃家駒 Wong Ka Kui」(old account, migrated to Piefed)@sh.itjust.workstoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•Is it impolite to ask someone about their roots?
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    16 days ago

    As a Chinese American, I don’t find it offensive. I mean at this point I kinda just embraced my background, I mean I still have a Chinese name as my legal name and I still speak Cantonese and Mandarin (with very basic fluency tho)

    Unless you say it like: “Oh, your English is very good! Where are you from?” and the person clearly has a native-accent 🙄 (don’t do it like this)

    (hasn’t happened yet, usually people are either much more overt like using racial slurs, or just not display racism at all)

    I think you should just ask something like: “What is your ancestral background?” more direct and IMO sounds a lot better. But I think the context is key, you need to feel the vibe in the room is good before you ask that, don’t just walk up to someone and ask that as the first question.

    But I was born in China, so I am technically speaking not “from” here, but if you are in the US and ask an Asian person born and grew up in the US that question, they might not like it. You should probably frame it like: “Hey I’m just curious, what is your ancestral background?”