I’d say helpfulness, responsiveness and being friends are three different things, that can be overlapping or not.

I know some people who always respond and keep the conversation alive even though we’re not friends, and i can be ghosted for days by close friends, who i lived intense things with.

I know some people who helped me moving out even though we were just accointances, and i have friends who are lazy enough to avoid this, but i live spending time with them anyway.

These are very fluid for me, so i’d say to avoid worrying, it’s best to not expect a lot from people, and/or to try to find friends that seem to match your needs

If im not mistaken, going counterclockwise means going toward your left.

Oh damn, i got confused here because in french “grappe” is the word for “grape cluster” so at first i was thinking it needed hundred of clusters for one bottle, and wine seemed very very wasteful to me for one moment

I think there is a misunderstanding here, the problem people have with your comment is not the meaning of it, but the words you chose.

Calling someone an abused wife is effectively pointing things out (as in direct description), but calling someone a pet is not pointing things out, it is making a metaphor (as in indirect description) that points at the similarity between a woman and a pet, which is what carries the sexist aspect. No big problem with that, you can simply withdraw the “pet” part and find a term that actually points things out.

My main usage is decentralized, but i still use mainstream ones when the information does bot yet exist on decentralized networks (reddit pages with solutions, whatsapp for family, discord for friends, etc.)