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Cake day: August 1st, 2025

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  • I don’t mean any disrespect, you’re right, food/housing insecurity is a systemic problem even though it doesn’t need to be and high-quality individual decisionmaking doesn’t provide any guarantees.

    If I’m being flippant it’s a reaction to those who say families (especially large families) are a joy and blessing and everybody needs to own a house. That might be true in some cases but for others of us that was never something we could count on so we had to adjust. No disrespect to anyone though, truly we all deserve better.



  • I’ve found it’s better to focus on people’s actions, rather than the people themselves. i.e. if I tell someone they as a person are a problem, that’s very hard for them to change. If I tell them their action is a problem, that’s a lot easier.

    ofc it may still be tough to change their action, but at least it makes them consider why they are commiting that action, and it may even lead to the realization that (often) the problem is systemic.