Unless they have a matching personality, showing a lot of gratitude can easily turn unattractive to most people, because it often comes from a position of insecurity… Have a sense of measure even for gratitude is what I’m saying (but this is very much like a patient advising the doctor, because I’m very gratitude-heavy myself).
There’s an in-browser game, a political simulation for Germany’s inter-war period from the point of view of the Social Democratic party (the biggest at the time, soon to be ousted by the Nazis): https://red-autumn.itch.io/social-democracy
You basically have to make lots of tough political and economic choices to try to slow down the explosive growth of the NSDAP party. It’s tough but very replayable.
Ah, no, just giving a glimpse of my own very subjective perspective, based on a relationship where the language of gratitude was decidedly a one-sided affair: neither appreciated nor reciprocated by the other.
I obviously don’t know your situation, knew even less before you mentioned ten years, and know less still about the situation of other people reading this conversation, so this was a general comment. We can sometimes miss the fact that other people have completely different interpretations of things that seem almost axiomatic to us.