Unless you know that person should have the knowledge - no it’s not possible.
Very few people are coded to give straight and short answers. We tend to wander around a topic, and the more specific info you need - you need to give a more specific question.
Nowadays it is easier with the AIs - you can learn how to ask pointed questions and request links to the source - to cut down llm bs.
Fake it til you don’t look like an awkward person - level up tov only slightly odd.
Life is life - most ‘adults’ just trying to keep their head above the water.
But to help: find a community - your ideas for new skills are great. Learn to be confident in your knowledge - that help with awkward feelings.
Expose yourself to new ideas and meet new people. Put yourself in situations you hate like: public speaking.
Eventually you will get old and realize that nothing really matters.
You know, that awkward moment you still think before falling asleep: no one else remembers it. (Unless it was really a total cluster fuck - but i doubt it).
Anyhow, good luck! You can do it!
This one feels more like a rant, than a real question and that’s okay. :)
Human emotions are messy. Who says you can’t have pity and glee at the same time? You can be sad and kinda vindicated by other people behavior (stupidity).
You can still wish them to be happy - only really far from you.
Sympathy and empathy can be hard emotions to feel. So many layers of thinking are behind them. And some people not that good at empathy even when they try.
It os a mess, and you probably won’t find any answers on an internet forum / social media anyway :).
Tho they say loving kindness meditation helps to feel more connected and more empathetic towards fellow humans.
Water pick - if I keep it in stride wit OP’s post.
Late stage capitalism.
Having kids is really expensive and insane amount of responsibility. Childcare is a full time job - so you need to go one worker per family, or be able to afford paying for it.