Hegar

Action.

Get organised. Find a group to join, action to take, a specific cause you feel passionate about.

I won’t pretend it’s easy - social anxiety is real and really difficult - but we’re social mammals and we do better as part of a group. Helping others is always the best way to help yourself.

Cardamom rich coffee

Night blooming cereus

The smell of my best friend from back at uni - patchouli, henna and well-cared-for dreds.

Burning Xanthorrhea trunk - the australian grass tree that acts like a firelighter.

That whole bit is SO GOOD. Everything from bang the rocks together, worst dressed sentient being, best bang since the big one, culminating in Zaphod’s jist zis guy, you know? 😂

It’s right up there with the ‘space, it says, is big’ and might even be better than the bit about the marketing division of the sirius cybernetics corporation.

Nup! It’s the only thing that keeps me going. It helps me get out of bed and fills me with hope and purpose.

I do think it’s a bad idea, even as someone who saves sex for committed relationships.

• A lifelong commitment to a potentially disappointing physical relationship doesn’t seem like a great plan.
• Before sex, there’s a lot of incentive to present your best self. Afterwards people are a more comfortable presenting more of who they are.
• You learn a lot about someone’s priorities, self-control, receprocity, hang ups, etc.

But if it works for you, don’t let others talk you out of it.