I stopped crying at 8 (because I was told to man up) and I’ve cried probably a handful of times since then. I’ve been working pretty hard on it and the first time I sobbed as an adult was so freeing. I haven’t gotten it back since, and I still get stuck in the stone face mode most of the time. I got pretty close watching “no other land” which was a devastating watch.
As a guy there is also a lot of shame and fear around crying. Especially around women. I’m scared of having my partner get the ick and not feel like I’m manly enough to be attractive and dominant anymore. I’d have an easier time crying around men because even if they don’t think I’m very manly, that’s not a big part of my social personality. At work of course it would be completely devastating…
I’m trying to make sure my kids all feel comfortable crying regardless of gender. Of course there is only so much you can do against social norms.
We don’t need to close the loophole. We need to make it illegal for ANYONE to digitally stalk us and create digital data troves on us. They should be restricted to a narrow data gathering of what we give them for the purpose we give them the data for.
I don’t want corporations collecting and selling data that I don’t trust the government with.
A world where they still do that but the government “isn’t allowed to buy it” isn’t much better than what we have. Worse, it could enshrine their right to gather it.