• pelespirit@sh.itjust.works
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    3 days ago

    I think jealousy gets a bad rap. It tells you what you want, and what you personally or society could work toward.

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      3 days ago

      Jealousy and envy are not the same thing, although the nuance is subtle. What you’re talking about is closer to envy. You can be envious of something or someone without the hostility that turns it into jealousy.

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          3 days ago

          It’s not my definition. That is the subtle difference between the two words. But, most people use both words for the same thing, and most people only use the word jealousy for both things.

          Merriam Webster has an interesting paragraph on the page for jealousy about it: https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/jealousy

          You can also check the definitions of jealous and envious yourself, you’ll see that one is defined through hostility of some sort.

          The nuance is usually clear through context no matter which word you use, though. But I think that when you use it in a generic manner like you did, using the right word is best.

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          3 days ago

          What my friend was conveying is that envy is the want for something–usually that another has–and jealousy is the fear of losing something that one already has.

          The interchangeable usage, e.g. by teenagers, based on a vague understanding is just that (for adults it crystalizes into something normative though they’re probably unaware of it, ego defense mechanisms lol).

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      2 days ago

      Seeing what someone else has and taking that as information to then decide what you want is not jealousy. Jealousy is seeing what someone else has and hating them for it. It deserves a bad rap.

      You’re talking about ambition, or something else.

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      2 days ago

      Everyone loves Nietche but no one is actually living Nietche. Sure it’s a useful tool if you stop, analyze this emotion and built from it but how many people are actually capable of this in practice? Instead people just get captured by the emotion and never progress.

      I don’t think pop culture will ever view jealousy as a positive emotion until we collectively learn emotions.