I always found people who take pictures with the middle finger as a trashy gesture. I don’t and never know who they’re trying to tell off but it’s out of no where and just stupid. It doesn’t offend me, I just find it a pointless gesture and therefore - trashy.
I don’t think it’s about specific behaviors but the way they’re carried out.
I think trashy is socially tone deaf, inconsiderate, selfish, and thoughtless actions.
This. I have run fundraising offices in multiple cities. There’s often one or two “trashy” people in each office, who could learn people’s names but don’t, who insist that everything they do is perfect and others need to change to see it, who love being loud and living large themselves but won’t respect other’s choices or beliefs even in shared professional spaces. They litter. They steal from people they know. They often hide behind a veneer of religious faith, to deflect criticism. They refuse to learn, or reflect upon their actions with anything but praise.