Feel like I’m alone in the world sometimes. I keep seeing ads and videos and things for wives whose husbands are emotionally unavailable or checked out or whatever. But I’m the husband and she is the checked out one or unavailable one. What is there for people like me or situations like mine? Is our situation so abnormal that no one cares? So atypical that there is no help for me or for us? Is anything out there targeted towards me and mine or am I just screwed? Am I alone in this shit?
I mean, you can resolve your current problem with a single conversation. You say to your wife “hey, I feel like you are acting super checked out. What’s going on?” You will get one of three answers:
If 3, you need to come back with “Hey, no, this is a real problem for me. We need to figure this out.” And press the issue until it resolves to 1 or 2.
The outcome with be either improved communication in your relationship (possibly facilitated via couples councilling) or a divorce. Or you can choose to do nothing, and live with the current situation as it is. But I wouldn’t suggest this.
This is good advice. Separately but related, I imagine couples councilling as a bunch of couples getting together to fix their collective problems.
We grant you a place on this Couple’s Council, but we do not grant you the rank of Master…
I’d like to speak to my Couple’s Council counsel. This is wildly irregular and frankly, feels a bit pointed.
No, I think they call that a swingers club.