One of my children is questioning their gender, and they seem at ease with non-binary. I found this out yesterday, so I’m approaching this gently, though I feel ill-prepared. I want to be who they need.
I’m curious about the experiences of other parents, or stories about your parents learning to adjust if you came out to them.
Follow-up: Thank you all so much for your stories and your feedback!
Not at all. Im bisexual myself and have a gay nonbinary partner. Botz also very neruodivergent. Soooo it wouldnt be any change for us lol
But if you’re looking for advice, dont do like my parents and do not aknowledge it at all. I did “silent outing” as in i just dropped hints here and there. And dont assume they are gay and then say “i know you’re gay” while in a fighting argument with them. Ask them or even better just say “no matter who you’re attracted to, we will always love you and be there for you”.
The way I always saw it was “ok? If we are shifting names or pronouns, just let me know. If you need ideas I’ve got a few you can reject but other than that, it changes literally nothing. You are still you and if this makes you happy that’s all I can ask for.” At least that’s what I generally mean. Usually I’ll just say ok and ask if they’re hungry or something