One of my children is questioning their gender, and they seem at ease with non-binary. I found this out yesterday, so I’m approaching this gently, though I feel ill-prepared. I want to be who they need.
I’m curious about the experiences of other parents, or stories about your parents learning to adjust if you came out to them.
Follow-up: Thank you all so much for your stories and your feedback!
About 10 years ago I told my dad I was gay and living with the guy who’s now my fiance. He just kinda went “ok” and changed the subject to where he was working construction nearby where I lived. Honestly, it sounds weird, but it really worked in the context of everything and our relationship. I couldn’t imagine it being the sappy cliche just because of the type of guy he is.
He later met him and they get along great with each other to this day.
Not gay myself, but I imagine in my case this would be the best possible outcome. I’m picturing in my head as though his response would have been the same if you’d said, “Hey dad, I’m straight and living with a woman.” I think my dad would be amazed that anyone could stand spending that much time with me 😂
That’s how I read it and kinda how I see it. If my kid came out as gay, I’d have about the same reaction. Who we love is who we love and as long as the person isn’t a complete tool or something, if they make my kid happy, that’s what matters. I just hope I’ve instilled enough self respect into them to pick a good person irrespective of the state or lack thereof of dangly bits
That’s lovely, thank you for sharing that.