Losing your wife and child during childbirth

My wife was rushed by ambulance to the area hospital with post-partum complication at about 48 hours.

Then seven days latter our new born was rushed off to the same hospital with suspected meningitis - she spent nearly 2 week there starting in NICU.

Both wife and daughter survived, although both were pretty hard to go through at the time.

If either of them ended for the worse it would have been crushing - if both of these had ended badly I suspect it would be fairly well up there

Trump has been my biggest one, entirely seriously. My partner and I uprooted our lives and left our home fleeing the country. We were forced to say goodbye to our friends, our family, and a huge loving artist community. We had just found a fantastic apartment around the corner from our friend, and my career as an artist was really starting to blow up but now it’s on pause because of visa restrictions. I have never cried so much in my life. I used to never cry.

The trauma runs so deep that I frequently hallucinate seeing my friends while I’m out and about, it absolutely kills me every time. I remember telling my partner “we will remember these as the good ole days” the day before the election.

I’m a trans latina immigrant

Outliving your own child.