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  • Vicinus@piefed.zipOPtoNew Communities@lemmy.worldPoliciesForAll
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    8 days ago

    I may have misunderstood your comment.

    If you’re asking what the downsides of not using “feeling” language is, from my perspective, when a comment is just stated, the statement comes across as a statement of fact, rather than someone’s understanding.

    Someone’s understanding of something is not always fact and by lowering the statement from a ‘fact’ to an ‘understanding’ it lowers the temperature when information counter to someone’s understanding is presented.

    My experience, is that it also helps start a dialogue. Example:

    Person 1: “My understanding is that the government heats homes with space lasers.” Person 2: “I hadn’t heard that. My understanding is that homes are heated with building heaters. Can you provide me with a source to look more into the lasers you described?”

    Versus: Person 1: “The government heats homes with space lasers.” Person 2: “You’re wrong. Homes are heated with internal heaters. Where did you hear that?”

    From my perspective, the first exchange is more amicable and the second more contentious and more likely to lead to insults rather than a constructive conversation.

    Edit: spelling.