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Cake day: June 3rd, 2026

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  • I guess there is a gender aspect as well. One of my dude friends casually mentioned they were poly when talking about relationships. Nothing out of the ordinary, really. Just “oh, cool”.

    This girl I knew who I was a bit on the fence about invited me on a date and showed up with two other guys. I don’t have a problem with one night stands, but I have literally no interest in sharing. Then she got real mad when I didn’t try to hook up with her then and there. I didn’t even realize it was a poly thing until later that night, I thought she intended a platonic hang and I was the crazy one that thought it was a date.




  • Scams work for a reason. More often than not, it’s a right place right time thing. I consider myself a pretty smart guy too, but I remember a few years back I gave my ssn to someone running the “you’re about to be arrested” scam. Realized it before I gave them money, and ssns are all leaked by now already (freeze your credit)…but that was a bit of a wakeup call (heh).

    I was tired after a long day, I was annoyed, and I’d had a few beers at that point. I was in a susceptible mindset when the phone rang. It happens. Scams are designed to short circuit your thinking, and with some scams being “smart” makes you more susceptible. It’s a question of experience.

    I know that 23 yr old cosplay models that love videogames and want me to rate their new bikini for some design aren’t adding me on discord…but if it was my first day on discord, I might think that’s normal.

    Edit: actually I think this might be the approach you should take–make it very clear that you don’t think any less of him, because this happens to everyone. Falling for a scam doesn’t make you dumb, it’s a learning experience. Many people that fall for scams keep giving up cash because they feel stupid and ashamed, don’t make him feel stupid and ashamed.










  • I’ll be honest I don’t know how much the advice will work.

    The advice is simple: do social stuff, be social, and you’ll end up in a social group.

    That being said, the advice is (a) mind-numbingly “have you tried putting one foot in front of the other foot” for someone that knows how to make friends, and (b) the advice is damn near useless/impossible for someone that doesn’t know how to make friends.

    Personally, I’m in group B. I don’t know how to find clubs where people do stuff. I don’t know how to find a place to volunteer.