When my wife and I were first married, my dad would ask us when we were going to have kids every time he visited.
At first we would tell him we didn’t know. Then after hearing the question a few dozen times, we started saying we decided not to have any kids.
For context, I’m the youngest in my family and he already had three granddaughters from my older brother and sister. My wife is the youngest in her family and her parents had no grandchildren (her oldest brother was killed by a drunk driver, and the other brother was a dickhead and his first wife was too smart to have kids with him). I know it was absolutely torturing her parents to hear us say we weren’t having kids.
We did have kids (three), but we did it on our schedule.
You might decide to have kids someday. You might not.
In your situation, I’d make up a story to explain why there were no kids that would embarrass them into never asking again. Or…if you can pull it off…just start crying and run off.
I try not to. It’s so easy to allow myself to reflect on the fucking horrors of the world, but I know it doesn’t do any good.
I think one of the general things that gets me down is the absence of genuine truth in the media and in government. In some parts of the world bribery, corruption and greed are commonplace, but we were brought up in the West to believe that as a society we’re somehow more noble and honest. That there’s accountability and due process and controls in place that stop cronyism, and that the law is there to protect us from harm and injustice.
Of course, you just have to scratch the surface to see that it’s all a lie - it’s always been about money, greed and self-interest at the top, and so it remains.
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When my wife and I were first married, my dad would ask us when we were going to have kids every time he visited.
At first we would tell him we didn’t know. Then after hearing the question a few dozen times, we started saying we decided not to have any kids.
For context, I’m the youngest in my family and he already had three granddaughters from my older brother and sister. My wife is the youngest in her family and her parents had no grandchildren (her oldest brother was killed by a drunk driver, and the other brother was a dickhead and his first wife was too smart to have kids with him). I know it was absolutely torturing her parents to hear us say we weren’t having kids.
We did have kids (three), but we did it on our schedule.
You might decide to have kids someday. You might not.
In your situation, I’d make up a story to explain why there were no kids that would embarrass them into never asking again. Or…if you can pull it off…just start crying and run off.
“I think one of us might be sterile or something. I keep peeing in her butt like they told me at school and she’s still not pregnant.”
I try not to. It’s so easy to allow myself to reflect on the fucking horrors of the world, but I know it doesn’t do any good.
I think one of the general things that gets me down is the absence of genuine truth in the media and in government. In some parts of the world bribery, corruption and greed are commonplace, but we were brought up in the West to believe that as a society we’re somehow more noble and honest. That there’s accountability and due process and controls in place that stop cronyism, and that the law is there to protect us from harm and injustice.
Of course, you just have to scratch the surface to see that it’s all a lie - it’s always been about money, greed and self-interest at the top, and so it remains.
So you got married when you were 20 and he was 40? Is that normal?
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